You got along well, he worshipped the ground you walked on. It sure is. He needs some time away from you to sort them out.
His response to that would probably be,”You say that now.” And you know what? I’d say the same, and here’s why.
A woman has the remarkable ability to change a man’s world, whether she intends to or not, whether she denies or confirms it.
What should you do?
It’s confusing, isn’t it? One moment you think you’ve found your soul mate, the next moment he’s stopped calling.
Nothing–at least for the first week or so. Hold your horses. Perhaps his world’s been turned upside down once too many. And here’s one big reason (though not the only one) why your guy does this:
The key word here is patience.
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And that’s the risk your man’s afraid to take. Give him the space he wants–that’s what he’s trying to communicate to you by his withdrawal. Instead, look at it as “building” time, for as the two of you remove the uncertainties that find their way into any romance, you add a few more bricks to the foundation of a lasting relationship. Zero. He feels the need to get away before you change his world.
Or so you thought.
The good news is that once a man withdraws from you for this reason, he’s most likely into you.
He’s afraid to commit. Nothing. That the world he’d wanted to protect–to keep intact–could only be enhanced by your presence. You’ll be doing him a favor if you stayed away. He pulls away.
That’s painful, you say. You feel helpless, not knowing if he’s coming back, much less when.
“But I don’t want to change his world,” you say. He was smitten by you as much as you were by him.
He wants to protect his world, so he plays it safe. Don’t pick up that phone, don’t send a “just to say hi” e-mail, don’t send a message through a mutual friend.
Which is why he’s afraid. Perhaps he’s been through this experience before.
You rack your brain for any clue that would explain his behavior. Or should you aggressively pursue him to convince him that you ARE the one for him?
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In short, leave him alone. You’ve struck a chord in his feelings, you’ve reached his heart, and he’s falling in love with you, if he hasn’t yet.
For most guys, it’s normal to pull away just when a relationship is about to move forward. She can change her man’s world for better or–unfortunately–for worse.
But look at it this way: if he decides to come back, chances are he’d decided that his world would be better with you, than without you.
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Now, isn’t that worth the wait?
Should you end the relationship now, while you can still crawl out of the black hole called love? After all, he’s not the only fish in the sea. Don’t look at this time apart as an unnecessary delay in the blossoming of your relationship